Cut the ties. Stop being so fucking content of the shitty situation you think is better than none at all. Embrace the independence. Buy yourself something nice. Treat yourself to fancy dinners.
Spoil yourself. Do not think of independence as a curse. Stop seeking for approval and just do it. Take as much risks as you can, then learn and grow from it. Live in that apartment you can only afford as of now. Be bold.
Involve yourself in the things that matter more. Instead of questioning yourself why you were left there in a corner broken; instead of asking why all these ugly things had to happen to you; instead of wallowing in this awful state of loneliness, find your purpose. Educate yourself with things that means more than just your failed relationship — and there are a lot out there.
You can be alone and you will be just fine — better, even. You know what you deserve, start giving that to yourself. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. You were surplus to their requirements, they lost interest. I know this can be devastating and hard to face, but is that possibly what happened? Sometimes we try so hard to meet all the expectations of another, but it is unsustainable and exhausting.
You tried to look perfect, smart, cool, try to really fit in to the other persons life, interests and hobbies but there is no guarantee that they would stay. Maybe they are so fickle, they will continue to float between people, not quite sure what they really need or what they are looking for.
Do you really want to be with someone like this? Yes, sometimes letting someone go is the kindest thing to do. Are you now free to do the things you always wanted to do, are you no longer held back from doing something you have been putting off or felt unable to do before this?
Alternatively maybe that is why someone left because they felt held back and stagnant in an aspect of their life that was making them very unhappy, so unhappy they had to do something. That something was walking out on you no matter how hard that was for either or both of you. Did you lose yourself along the way and become too dependent on this person and you craved being with them and having them around you and they recognized this and feel trapped, stifled and wanted out! Were you less independent since you have been together, did you have greater expectations from the other person?
Did they see you as needy, clingy, vulnerable and perhaps a bit demanding? You constantly argued and underlying resentment and hostility built up. Where someone chooses to leave your life, let them go, learn and build yourself up again. Lets face it, this was not a healthy relationship to be in. Looking back, is it possible you were being controlled by the other person or were you trying to call all the shots?
Either way, there are no real winners and regardless of who left, it was not a recipe for success. Going forward neither person would be happy. I know the above may be hard to take in, process and work through. What I find helps in very troubling situations is the Serenity Prayer. Look it up and keep repeating it when you find yourself dwelling on why someone left and finding it hard to let them go. If this does not work or if it is not something you are interested in pursuing, then I leave you with the following:. Life long learning is how you improve as a person, bit by bit and day by day.
Life long learners recognize the importance and joy of growth so they never settle for what they currently know and always seek for improvement. Here are 12 habits of people who value lifelong learning have in common — see how many of them you recognize in yourself. Reading is a great way to open up new horizons, train your brain and revolutionize your life.
Through reading, you can connect with successful people and learn from the lessons they share. Life long learners love to get lost in books and do it regularly.
Bill Gates knows that reading matters a lot; on his personal blog, he reviews plenty of game-changing books. These are great opportunities to connect with clever and like-minded people and learn from them. Because of the advanced technology, you can now gain knowledge from online programs, starting from coding through self-improvement to programs from top universities. There are literally endless ways to thrive.
In order to get over someone, you need to focus in on the feelings you are having and talk them through with someone who will give you the space to do so. That is great Submitted by Andrea Bonior Ph. In order to make it flourish for as long as possible, they train regularly, move a lot and eat healthy. If so, how? Even things like leaving the lights on. Not what you could be.
What life long learners have in common is squeezing as much as possible out of these opportunities. Instead of spending your free time laying on the couch and watching TV, you prefer doing something creative and practical.
You know every wasted minute is gone forever. Life long learners stay up-to-date with growth opportunities in their areas and participate in them frequently.
A clever mind combined with a body in a great condition is the best asset you can have. Our bodies were designed to run, walk, jump, swim, lift and much more. Leading a sedentary lifestyle harms both your physical and mental sphere.
Life long learners know the body is your temple. In order to make it flourish for as long as possible, they train regularly, move a lot and eat healthy. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. Having a variety of passions indicates that you love to progress.
By practicing different skills, you give yourself an advantage over the rest of the people. During hard times, you are more likely to to act intelligently and solve your problems with less effort. If behind the efforts, there is passion and a deep desire to grow, your chances of success are way higher, compared to when you are forced to learn. Life long learners love to experience the constant growth and improvement. The breakthrough moments help them to notice the impressive change that took place because of the learning process.
Any milestone serves as a driving force for further headway. In order to keep growing, you clearly define your goals. Smart goal setting is one of the tools to ensure constant growth. Quite the opposite, it keeps you motivated and engaged. Research showed that precise and ambitious goals increase the performance of an individual. As we already agreed, life long learners are people who care about their performance, hence they never stop improving.
Allef Vinicius. I used to be one of those people who'd always tell their friends to leave their shitty relationship and find someone who knows. My relationship was basically perfect, but I needed to find myself. meant I was finally challenging the idea that I needed someone else to.
A complete change can lead to incredible results. This is especially visible on the example of successful companies. Twitter was originally created as an internal service to serve Odeo employees. Currently, it has over million monthly active users and is considered the second biggest social network. As a life long learner, you know a change can lead to extraordinary results so you welcome it and stay open minded about making a shift.